Here's an email that I got from a small group leader that just moved away from our church. Look through some of the different things he says that are humorous, and try to see what is fair and what isn't.
I"M REMOVING THIS QUOTE FOR A TIME AS SOME FEEDBACK I'VE RECEIVED THINKS IT'S INAPPROPRIATE. WHILE HAVING THIS DISCUSSION IN THE COMMENT BOXES, I'LL REMOVE IT TO BE RESPECTFUL TO THE CONVERSATION WE'RE HAVING. THANKS.While I'm *not* for people doing church like this (read more than five posts on [retro] and you'll see that), let me point out a couple of things that I feel are unfair in this critique.
(1) The worship leader who used the word "I", "me", or "my" in every sentence. - I hear this often, including critiquing songs that mention the exact same words. I don't think that means the song is self-centered automatically. Read the Psalms. "Bless the Lord, O MY SOUL, and ALL THAT IS WITHIN ME, bless his holy name" is not self-centered even though the person is talking to himself. I want to look at things more holistically than a simple word count.
(2) Before the service, they kept playing the theme song over and over as a clock ticked down the minutes and seconds for the service to begin. Do they not know about the whole "preparing you heart" thing. - Is the preservice countdown supposed to prepare our hearts, or is that our responsibility? While I understand that some things are more condusive and other things are more distracting, I surely want to encourage everyone (including myself) to assume this responsibility. At the same time, as a service planner, I want to provide things that are more CONDUSIVE.
(3) The "auditorium". I know lots of churches that call their main meeting hall a "sanctuary" or "worship center" and totally act like ... whatever. I know words are important. I'm trying to pick mine very carefully. But let's be gracious with some semantic issues. Names sometimes are very important, but sometimes, it's just what we call it.
However, no bibles? Anywhere? Bad sign.